The Tate Way

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Please don’t ask me that again November 25, 2008

I have this thing about random guys asking me what my thanksgiving plans are. I don’t know you and you don’t know me.  I don’t care about what you’re doing for Thanksgiving.  I only care about what I’m doing; making someone’s pets take embarrassing pictures (well I can’t take credit for this):

So please observe the following rules:

Rule #1: If I wanted to talk to you while we were dancing I would have said something to you first.

Rule #2: Don’t ask me the same question 5 times.  I’m sorry you’re drunk and can’t remember what happened 2 seconds ago.

Rule #3: Stop telling me your mom’s birthday is the day after mine. It’s getting creepy.

Rule #4: If I don’t answer my cell phone after five calls, don’t leave me a message. Just STOP CALLING ME! I gave you my number so I could walk away without you insulting me. Not because I liked you.


The Tate Manifesto: Have to vs. Want to February 6, 2008

With today being Ash Wednesday, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking. Since I was raised Roman Catholic Ash Wednesday has always meant the start of “No Meat” Fridays (along with no meat on Ash Wednesday and Good Friday; and sometimes Holy Thursday and Holy Saturday for good measure) and 40 days of sacrifice.

When I was younger I would dread giving up something for 40 whole days. It would be something I didn’t really favor that much, like chocolate (there was a time when I HATED chocolate). I gave it up because I HAD to not because I wanted to.

Then last year happened. For the first time in about 5 or 7 years (but who’s counting) I went to Ash Wednesday church services with a group of coworkers. I was reminded that the reason I abstain, fast, and repent is because I want to honor the 40 days and 40 nights Jesus fasted and prayed before spreading the word of God. If Jesus did it for me I can do it for him!

No, I’m not going to go around spreading the word of God; I do that everyday through my beliefs and morals and how I project them into the world. But I will abstain from a number of things this Lenten season:

  1. No meat on Fridays (the standard, I do this every year)
  2. No caffeine (I started this last month, so I’ll keep it going)
  3. No high fructose corn syrup (may seem VERY random, but it’s not)
  4. No alcohol
  5. No fast food

I WANT to give these things up. I want to clear my body of things it does not need; things that make it (me) some degree of unhealthy. None of the above are vices for me (well maybe the high fructose corn syrup), but they are inhibitors of one kind or another. Inhibitors = BAD!

So, the moral of the story: Do things/follow traditions because you want to not because you have to. You’ll be a happier person for it.


Goals, 2008 edition December 9, 2007

Filed under: 2008 goals,5 step plan,holiday cheer,random — Dianna @ 10:30 pm

Setting goals motivates me. Last year I committed to make 2007 SO MUCH BETTER than 2006. And boy, was it. I can honestly say I have nothing to complain about, nothing major at least. 2007 was the “Year of Dianna”. I took a salsa class, by myself (that’s REALLY not like me). I just showed up to class and danced with whatever guy was there. I applied for a job I’d been thinking about applying to for a year; and I got the job and subsequently moved away from my friends and family. I walked the Bay to Breakers (12k), while pushing my son in his stroller (I was sore for about a week). I took chances in my dating life and have no regrets. Sure, I’m still single, but that’s my choice. Why settle into something I’m not really into? That’s just asking for trouble. I just basically threw out all my reservations and just went for a lot. And I got a lot.

So, the moral of this posting, set goals to challenge and pull yourself out of your comfort zone. And because I’m super helpful, here are some tips on how to formulate your goals (for the full version, check out:

  1. Make sure the goal you are working for is something you really want, not just something that sounds good.
  2. A goal can not contradict any of your other goals.
  3. Develop goals in the 6 areas of life: Family and Home, Financial and Career, Spiritual and Ethical, Physical and Health, Social and Cultural, Mental and Educational.
  4. Write your goal in the positive instead of the negative.
  5. Write your goal out in complete detail.
  6. By all means, make sure your goal is high enough.
  7. This is the most important, write down your goals.

And to add some words of wisdom from my sister, “If you don’t meet a goal, just add it the next year’s list of goals.” Good idea, big sis. Now I don’t feel so bad about not reading a new book every month.

Happy Holidays everyone. See you in 2008 (unless I have a great urge to post before the new year)! But if you really need a fix (lol), check out my photo blog: As You Leave Me. I post new pictures almost everyday.


Oh the smell…that Thanksgiving and Christmas cheer November 21, 2007

Filed under: holiday cheer — Dianna @ 7:18 am

It’s that time of year again. The Holidays are upon us. The time of the year when people lose their minds. Yes, I said it. The Holidays make people crazy. With the last minute shopping trips, stressing over what color tinsel to put on the Christmas tree, and spending money on all kinds of crazy (beyond normal, everyday crazy) instead of paying bills.

Okay, so I understand. I love this time of year, especially when it means I can burn my Apple Cinnamon and Cranberry Delight/Everlasting Pine candles all day long. I love the warm fuzzy feeling I get when I hear Christmas music the day after Halloween (I’m not judging! I started listening to Christmas music last week.). But, folks we can not forget our priorities. Family. I’ll say it one more time: Family. The whole point of the Holiday Season is to share that time with the people you love. You cook delicious meals so the people in your life can gather and enjoy each other’s company.

Thanksgiving is a time to reflect on what you are truly thankful for. It goes back to giving thanks for a successful fall harvest. Let yourself be thankful for your harvest.

Christmas is a time of year to celebrate our faith (in whatever form that may be) and to refocus on what we believe in. I was raised Roman Catholic and my favorite mass to go to was Midnight Mass (Christmas Eve). The church was lit by candle light and it was magical. I listened to every word, sang every song, socked everything in, and listened. Really listened. So many times, we forget that Christmas is not just about gifts. It is in short (and in my opinion) about celebrating family, winter, making it through another year, and faith – in ourselves, our family, our future, and our God. Sure, I give gifts and enjoy receiving them. But I don’t knock other people over to get the last Teddy Ruxpin (oh, Teddy, how I wanted one of you to call my own). And I don’t complain about the gifts I get (sure, I may re-gift, but that’s different…).

So please, do not get bogged down in the craziness of The Holiday Season, no matter what you celebrate . We have enough crazies out there, we don’t need anymore.

Oh, and for a great holiday gift idea, take a look at this. Or this (All kinds of great ideas through out).